Thursday, August 16, 2012

My dad is a freakin' IDIOT!!!!!

Why? Long stroy short: He was online last Monday looking at who-knows-what, the computer locks up with an official looking bit about looking at child porn and having that lock up the computer, and paying a $200 fine to the FBI to unlock it. Dad goes and pays the $200, goes to mom's work and tells her and she drags him down to the local PD after she gets out of work to report it. He admits to looking at little kids in bikinis and porn on mom's computer to the cop, and they come to the house after we all get home to take the CPU to search it.

Mom and I are pissed because both of us use the computer for our own stuff, and also because every time he's been caught looking at this schiesse in the past, he's promised not to do it again and we've caught him. Plus, since he's retired and we're still working, we expect him to pull his weight in house cleaning and the like. What does he do? Read, sleep and look at porn on mom's computer. Any time we confront him about it, he starts saying he's going to kill himself/move out/blames himself for everything that goes wrong in the house, which pisses us off even more because you'd expect that kind of BS from a 15 year old girl, not a 63 year old man. Mom had to drag him to his doctor a couple months ago to get him a physcial and see if the 3 concussions he had when he was a kid had anything to do with the schiesse he keeps pulling. Well, the concussions didn't show up on the MRI his doc ordered, but the doc put him on anti-depressants. They worked okay for a couple weeks, then just... Stopped working. Mom and I are fed up with it, and told him point blank that until he starts doing what he needs to around the house, he's not getting access to her computer, and even when he does, he's going to have his account parental blocked up the arse, and he's only going to be allowed on the computer for an hour or two when one of us is home. Of course, when she told him this, he launced another drama queen bit, then started talking about getting a cheap laptop, even after mom reminded him that the money needs to be spent on fixing up the bathroom, kitchen and the radiator in my room. Ugh!
Anyway, sorry for venting at y'all, but this has been pissing me off for the last week or so, and I don't wanna keep venting at my coworkers.


Sea said...

are you sure he's still taking his antidepressants? It sounds like another visit to the doc is needed, but I know it costs you even for a consultation in USA, and you say money needs spending on other things.
63 is a little young for retirement. Maybe if he had a job, maybe only part time, it would stop him pulling stunts like that? Just an idea.

Kat Knits! said...

He went on retirement due to his having emphysema. As for him still taking his meds... He says he does, but I doubt that he does. He's been having short term memory problems for the last... 6 or 7 years. Now, if you ask him about something from 40 years ago, he can tell you, but yesterday? Forget it. Part time Job: I don't think too many places would hire a hard of hearing 63 year old with emphysema and temper problems.

Rio Donovoyn said...

Geez... You're dad is a piece of work.

Anonymous said...

Having a seriously depressed parent of my own, with all the attendant obsession issues, you have my sincere sympathies. I hate to say it, but unless someone actually sees him swallow the pill - it's just real suspicious they'd stop working that suddenly. It doesn't sound like he admits - or is capable of admitting - that he has a medicatable problem. Until he does, he has no real motivation to take his meds (he's hardly alone, medication compliance is a huge problem).

If he's going to act like a whiny child, maybe you have to treat him like one. Terribly hard situation, no matter how you look at it. Best of luck.

Kat Knits! said...

Rio- Tell me about it.

Jesslin- Thanks! It's nice to know mom and I aren't the only ones out there dealing with this kinda stuff!